Cancer is something that we are all struggling with one way or another; whether a person is a patient themselves or a close friend or family of a cancer patient. The worst part of being close to someone with cancer is being unable to understand their thoughts and feelings and hopes and dreams; especially in the case of the incurable cancers. But for those who are lucky enough to get through the therapy and come back to somewhat normal life, how do you celebrate the occasion.
· Things they liked before therapy
The first thing to do is to ask them what they want. Most of them will end up saying that they do not need anything unless you are a really close friend or family (even in these cases there are patients who pull away after the ordeal) but you might be able to give them something precious if you bug them enough. Usually nutritious food and medication that they need to continue taking can be presented as gifts (usually these are very expensive) or you can buy them clothes that fits after they have gone through therapy or take them out to see a movie or the park.
· Will they like the something they did in the past
Sometimes cancer patients undergo complete changes after years or months of therapy. The constant pain and shock can do changes to people whether they like it or not. So do not assume that the friend you knew before breast surgery or cancer therapies is the same now.
You can try buying them the same thing and hoping that they would like it the same; how they react to it can be a judgement on how much they have changed personality wise too, as procedures such as boob jobhttp://somniomedical.com/augmentation/ has a major impact on people.
· The sentimentality of albums
If you feel like bringing some of the good memories back (if they have gone past the phase of depression and self-hatred) then you can bring out the old albums and show off the pictures. Or you can do even better and go for a photo shoot with them and the whole family to mark the restart in life with memories. This will be a good way to make them feel happy about their physical capacity and look as patients undergo a phase of severe self-depreciation after the weight loss and hair loss of therapy.
Consult with other friends and family to figure out what usually gets your friend laughing and happy and go with that note until you figure out how to help them in your own ways.